In college, your family is far away. Who is going to be there when you flunk a test or can’t figure out how to air up your tire? Who will encourage, love and support you in this strange, new collegeland? Answer: Your friends! Continue reading “To my sisters: The case for building fierce female friendships in college”
Category: Lessons Learned
This is a little bit of a guilty pleasure confession. Last semester it was bacon cheddar cheese crackers, but now it is motivational content on the internet. So yes, I am now one of those people that read inspirational quotes and listen to recorded seminars given by motivational speakers. Continue reading “Digging For Inspiration”
Deep fried resumes? Continue reading “The Kansas State (Career) Fair”
In the past, I would crawl into a hole when an argument or confrontation began. I’ve always had something to say, but I was terrified that I would unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings or make someone mad at me. In my college years, I have learned that challenging discussions and confrontations are necessary and can be done in a respectful, constructive and beneficial way. Continue reading “4 tips for having difficult conversations from someone who’s no longer afraid of them”
Getting an engineering degree is pretty tough work -of course I wouldn’t know about that, but people tell me. I just assume if someone goes through the trouble of getting an engineering education they wouldn’t think of doing something else for a career. Continue reading “Thinking outside the college degree”
Every new school year is a time to start fresh. How can you improve yourself this year? How can you develop new habits? What did you do wrong last year? How can you fix that this time around? Continue reading “Who do you want to be this school year?”
It’s that time of year again. A test and paper in one class, a project in another, plus a few more papers, projects and tests in the rest can make for an extremely stressful time. Then when you add working a job and trying to make time for a social life, things can get out of control and suddenly you find yourself in a downward spiral. Thankfully, there are some simply things you can do to help manage your stress better. Continue reading “Stressed Out of My Mind”
So about a week ago I enrolled in my last Fall semester at K-State. HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHHA I’M SORRY WHAT? No. I’m actually not leaving Mom, Dad, World. It won’t happen.
…but okay, in reality, it’ll most likely have to happen. I will most likely have to leave Manhappiness and K-State and these people and City Park and the Top of the World and the Harry Potter room in Hale and the Veggie Sandwich at Radina’s and I’m going to stop there but wow… looking back there are a few things I knew and didn’t quite take to heart. . . Ones that yes, my mom probably told me and was completely correct about, and that I’m just now realizing I should have put into action. (Yes, Mom. You were very very right.) So I’m going to give you the advice I got in the hopes that maybe it’ll help your first couple years in college just a little bit smoother.
1. Don’t Procrastinate. Oh I know, I know! You “work better under pressure!” …and are “too busy to do things ahead of time!” Trust me, I can give you any excuse in the book, because I’ve said all of them. BUT I’m telling you right now. If you get in the habit of doing assignments [and anything else really] ahead of time, not only are you going to be 100x less stressed the night before, but you’ll produce more quality work because you have just that much more time you’re putting into it.
2. Don’t Overwhelm Yourself. Especially in your first semester / year. I am a full-blown, self-admitted “Yes-Woman.” If I can somewhat fit something into my schedule, you bet I will. The downside of that is that I rarely have time to sleep, rest, relax, breathe or do something just because I love it, and that’s not healthy. Being involved is great, but if you’re not well enough to put every bit of your best into a task because you’re stretching yourself thin, all of your tasks are going to suffer. Find the one to three things you are most passionate about and donate your time there. You’ll be inspired and doing something you love, as well has have time for socializing and keeping yourself happy.
3. Don’t Underestimate the Value of Going to Class. It’s easy. It’s easy to skip “just one Monday class” and then get into the routine of skipping that same class every week, and then even more classes. Just don’t do it. You’ll fall behind and end up missing more trying to catch up at the end of the semester than that extra long nap you were going to get skipping. If you manage your time right, and prioritize, you can have a healthy balance where skipping won’t even seem necessary.
4. Don’t Say No to Spontaneity. I’m not out of college, but I have a lot of friends that are. And they all look like they’re having a fantastic adulthood, but one thing I can see that I have that the moooostly don’t is flexibility. For example, in the middle of writing this post, my friend asked me to drive to Topeka with her to pick up a bunny she was adopting. Practical? Debatable. Hilarious and memory worthy? Duh. I’d say yes again. Take the time to, after being mostly responsible, be spontaneous and make memories. You’ll be carrying those with you too when you grab that diploma.
So there you have it. Advice I wish I’d taken. Please at least try it. I’m scrambling and can now see the end of my time in Manhappiness and I know I’d be doing less fretting and stressing if I had just listened to my mom when she told me these things freshman year.
I love what I do, and I feel really grateful that I can say that. That thought made me think even more about why it is I am yet to dread anything I do and unlike a lot of people I do not have any miserable tasks hanging over my head. This is an “explore as you write” kind of blog-post where I just threw a random thought or feeling onto my laptop screen and at this point I do not even know where I am going with this.
Is it that I find the silver lining in everything? Is it that I am too easily entertained? (I would put my money on that.) Or is it that I coincidentally have a knack for everything I do? (I would NOT put any money on that- at all.) Continue reading “Do what you love and you will never have to work a day in your life”
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